My collection of Happy Boxes is flourishing, and this is one of my favourites. The concept of not explaining myself has fascinated me since my teenage years.
How I love to observe human interactions and dialogues and the twisted turns they take. People are so uncomfortable saying no sometimes for some reason and it seems to be getting worse. I hear about it all the time from my clients.
The word no is so powerful it really does stand alone. In most cases, the more words that follow your “no” debase and devalue your position.
***Warning*** The first time you attempt this it will feel completley unnatural and you may even feel your heart racing, a little anxious and even have cold sweats coming on. Don’t give in. There will be a strong urge to speak. Stay silent and see how the conversation simply ends. This reward will empower you to keep practicing. I know you can do it!!!!!
This may be directed at my soul sisters out there but I ask you supportive guys to help out the ladies on this one. I know you understand where I am coming from on this, Men are From Mars Women Are From Venus after all (insert a wink and a smile!) Think of all the uncomfortable conversations you won’t need to have when the women in your life are comfortable owning the word no.
And yes, this applies to men as well, but in general the predominance of people affected by the Can’t Just Say No Syndrome is the female population.
Here in 2014, we need to embrace the word no as a loving word; a message of confidence, connection and kindness.
Sending peace, grace and love! Lisa
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