I saw Caroline Myss speak for the third time just a few weekends ago. It never ceases to amaze me how year after year she can scold an auditorium for a rock solid 90 minutes. At the end of her keynote she then receives an enthusiastic standing ovation cut short as the audience pours frantically out the aisles to buy her books by the bagful and line up by the hundreds for an autograph. Bless!
Well and truly she is amazing. She has a no nonsense style and a confidence in her message that pulls you in. Paired with her archetype of the universal North American “Mom”, she gets your attention and keeps it.
I will keep it brief for today sharing two take away messages that have had significant impact on my life this past year. After a lengthy discussion on archetypes she emphatically relayed how it was essential for individuals to identify their own. Carolyne says there is no other way to figure out what drives our behaviour. This is the path to achieve true personal revelations and growth.
I am far enough along and I am comfortable with my blogger friends and your supportive natures to admit I have lived most of my life with a STRONG “pouter” archetype. Once I identified this last spring, (thank God and thank you Caroline!) I watched the revolution begin.
Why I ever thought feeling so hurt or so abandoned or so misunderstood and then so wounded would serve me well is beyond me! How could I be so narcissistic without realizing it for so many years? It made me love and appreciate my husband that much more, let me tell you. I catch my “pouter” tendencies now and nip them in the bud. I also see them in my children and I am able to put it all into a better perspective.
The other thing she said that resonated so profoundly with me was this,
“Who do you think you are not to have any problems? Yes, you. Why are you so special that above and beyond every other person on this planet you don’t deserve to have any problems?”
I mean truly, we talk ourselves into so many different scenarios as to why we do or don’t deserve one thing or another. The truth remains that suffering and difficulty is a mainstay of the human existence. We all have problems. Period.
Personally I found it quite liberating. So I have stopped over thinking my troubles and accept them for what they are. Problems are a staple of the human existence and now I find it easier to just get on with living life.
Peace, grace and love! Lisa
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